Care when no one cares...has a meaning.

There are people you may be genuinely concerned from the bottom of your hearts. But they may never take you seriously for all the reasons that the world has to offer. That, notwithstanding the fact that each human has free will and thus the freedom to do what he or she chooses to do.

However, that may not necessarily be the best thing for them to do about themselves. Just like when kids don't listen to their parents, they may be reprimanded for the same. This may not be the best modus operandi of convincing someone, instead, its a coercion by the fear of force. Independence of decision making is vital to all human beings, but at times, its not a bad idea to trust someone's suggested course of action than one's own. Be it, the domain expertise or just the faith in someone, certain things can actually stop us from failing ourselves from our own decisions.

There are innumerable examples from History where great conquerors of the order of Alexander, Adolf Hitler and Bonaparte himself took a course of action borne out of what they felt was correct, which in the end went terribly wrong. Their ignorance of the suggestions of their comrades and top advisors meant nothing more than mere discouraging discourses.

So what exactly can one do if one sees someone who one loves and cares for in that same situation.

Its simple. Tell them what you feel and why you feel what you feel. But this is the next step after a degree of self analysis of the conceived course of action prior to suggestion. This is strongly recommended step since the degree of emotional bias as well as impulsive action and decision can sink ships and lose battles besides nations. At a micro level, relationships.

And if the person doesnt take you seriously, then..?

Simpler. Let them take their desired course of action. You did your bit and gave your opinion. Your job ends then and there. Even if you know that the person you love and care for is about to jeopardize everything he or she has, you simply cannot command another human being to do something that he or she is not obliged to do.
Once you have conveyed what you felt is the truth, then you have done your job well and carried out the responsibility that the 'System' gave you. For even if that person meets his or her end in not taking your thoughts seriously, you did what you could at its best by forewarning. Your job is done when you communicate something the other person may not adhere to. All the harm that comes to this person is not a function of a crisis management group from heaven, but solely the person who did what he shouldnt have.

We all are signalled for something good and evil. We then make a choice based on our intuitive ability, provided we have developed it over a period of time. In the suffering of the other person, there is always an attempt to rescue in which only 1 of 100 escape. Rest are consumed in the fire of Karma and destiny.

And then there is hope. Trusting and having faith in the 'System' makes a lot of sense minus the service charges actually. The learning that follows massive failure has its origins in small successes that become big ones in no time.

So if you love someone from the bottom of your heart and the person doesnt pay a heed, just sit back and relax. Their time for the hard learning of lessons from life has just begun.

Just make sure, you are there when there is no emergency support.

Best friends come handy when both our hands are gone...

On my way home...I was contemplating Relationship dynamics.

I missed writing in here last night. I wish I could have written something while I was in the Train. But I guess, it was way too crowded to even carry a laptop, put aside the thought of using one in there. Going back home for a single day in the week is something most people cannot digest. Besides, the cold war with folks has already come to an end. Coming back home is a refreshing break actually. A small town has the tranquility that cannot be felt in a Metropolitan city by any means.
Maybe the Cyborg-isation has already happened. There is an ongoing struggle everyday to maximize profits, generate value and gain competitive advantage in the Corporate world. This has its own cost. The people who, I thought as fitness icons, today exhibit visible signs of stress. Although I m not discouraged, but a little concerned about the bigger picture. Is this professional success worth the toll on one's health. Debatable indeed. Most need money to enjoy life. Greater the Monetary gain, more is the magnitude of worldly pleasures one can indulge in. But if you lose health in the process, all the luxuries and comforts exhibit their uselessness.
Unfortunately, a few of my very close friends and colleagues are facing a very similar situation. The greater sorrow is, they chose this life for themselves. Not that I have n't done my bit. But then, I really do not have a right to dictate what they do with their lives, be it their health or relationships that they have chosen. There is nothing we can do about the relations that we are born with.
The most I can do is pray, and speak my mind, provided they are willing to listen. Even the so called boyfriends/ girlfriends of some of my friends are more interested in having a good time, than having a lasting, happy and a healthy life. Financial status assumes greater significance as a guarantee for a relationship to last longer. Especially for the fairer sex, who seek security in a holistic manner, it matters more than anything else. And yet, relationships break, despite everything going right. Never been in one, so probably havent understood to that extent what would make things last.
This becomes all the more critical, when folks are chasing me to get married. Somehow, I realize, there is more to this ritual than just staying together for the rest of one's life. I guess its more to do with looking together in the same direction than looking at each other for the rest of the lives. A tough call, if one were to go by the book. And yet, there is some unlimited power hidden somewhere, in this little, not so obvious statement. People change their partners faster than one changes dresses in cases I have known. And then I have seen examples that defy laws of nature to see relationships that transcend one life into another. Matches made in heaven for real. I can't name them, since I promised them anonymity. But having seen it with my own eyes, and been through some bit of it my selves, I have no doubts.
The strength lies more in shared belief and values more than anything else. Something, both souls would treasure more than their lives would eventually take them into their next lives with the invisible bond intact. Just like the Parent key operation in the Database Management Systems. As seen in the Gods, the analogy is found in Human beings in not just one but many instances. A common ground for a common purpose is what makes a relationship last more than a lifetime and perhaps many lives, at least 7 as per Hindu, Buddhist and Jain thought.
I hope some of those who read this will get back to me with their perspectives...I have some more thoughts of the "not so normal kinds".